4 Mindset Shifts to Help Clear Your Cluttered House

These mindset shifts WILL help you succeed at decluttering. Once you get past the mental roadblocks, it’s SO MUCH EASIER to clear your cluttered house without overwhelm. Keep reading for the 4 suggestions that you can use TODAY.

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Why We Struggle to Clear a Cluttered Home

“This time it’s going to work,” you whisper to yourself. “I’m going to clear this cluttered house, get it organized, and it’s going to stay that way.”

Full of excitement, you throw open the door to a closet… or a kitchen cabinet… or the “junk room.” Your confident smile slips as you get a true picture of the sheer number of items you’ll have to sort through, but you’re still determined.

You have your boxes ready — labeled “keep,” “trash,” “recycle,” “donate,” and “sell.” Because of course that’s how everyone says you “should” declutter.

Then, you begin the task. With each object you pick up, memories surface.

You set one item aside because your great-aunt Irma gave it to you when you were seven.

Digging further, you realize you only used another item once — and it cost $80, so it should still be worth money.

Oh, and those clothes still have the tags on them — maybe you should try wearing them or selling them. You really should have a garage sale, or sell on ebay or facebook.

At the end of your session, you’re left with a larger mess and a pile of items that you think will be worth some money if you can find the right buyer… and take good pictures… and post for sale in the right place… and…

You feel overwhelmed. Defeated, you back away from the area and quietly close the door, leaving your labeled boxes behind and vowing you will return one day to finish the job.

For the purposes of this blog post, we’re going to assume you are no longer bringing clutter into your home. (You aren’t, right?!)

Still, we’re left with the issue of following through on those good intentions to clear your cluttered house once and for all. How can you do that when it seems like there is always a valid reason you shouldn’t just toss everything?

Today I’m going to talk about some issues I’ve faced with decluttering my own home and how I finally got past the mental roadblocks. These recommendations come from my perspective as an overwhelmed overthinker who lives in a sparsely-populated area.

From this, please take what you can use and make it work for you! A clutter-free home is definitely worth the effort!

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4 Excuses We Make to Keep Clutter

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1. My Partner Isn’t On Board

I get it — it’s hard to take on a monumental project when it feels like you don’t have support.

But the thing about your partner not really being on board? They don’t have to be! The actions YOU take and the attitude YOU have will determine your success.

And I’ll let you in on a little secret — those positive changes you’re making won’t go unnoticed. Positive action inspires positive response.

When I first began decluttering, my husband was so used to all the stuff around that he didn’t see the point of letting it go.

I did a lot of filling boxes by myself. I would ask for his help to carry a heavy load to the truck or out for trash pickup, or to go with me to drop off the donations. But other than that, it was mostly me.

However, that’s changed. Now when he sees me beginning another round of decluttering, he’ll usually start getting rid of a few things without me even saying anything. (To be completely honest, you’re never “done” decluttering, but it gets soooo much easier after the first round.)

You could always start by filling a couple of small boxes and just asking your partner to help you move them or drive with you to drop them off when you go grocery shopping or something like that.

Or, perhaps you could hire a neighbor or a trusted teenager to haul things away. Depending on your location, some charities will pick up donations at your home.

Related: How to Organize a Small Master Closet

2. It Has Sentimental Value

Sentimental objects are SO difficult to declutter.

Are you worried your great-aunt Irma is going to ask about that thing she gave you when you were a child and you’re hanging on to it out of guilt? It’s more likely she doesn’t even remember it.

To give some perspective, how many gifts have you given that you feel the need to keep tabs on? Probably very few, if any.

One thing I do is keep a plastic memory box bin for each family member (including myself). Inside there are childhood keepsakes, special items, school records and projects, and things like that.

If I’m decluttering and run across something that brings back a FLOOD of uber-good memories, I’ll put it in the bin. Every couple of years I go through the bins and decide a few things aren’t really that big a deal any longer.

For more help in this area, check out my post about 5 keys to make decluttering sentimental items easier.

3. It’s Too Good to Donate

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I know this is hard — but PLEASE move past the idea that something is too good to donate and you should try to sell it instead. This is probably THE biggest roadblock to successfully clearing your cluttered house.

I used to feel EXACTLY the same way, especially when I would mention needing to get an object out of our home and my husband would say, “That might be worth something,” or, “We paid a lot of money for that.”

When he would say that, it completely validated my thoughts that we should hang onto it or try to sell it.

It took me YEARS to realize what that kind of thinking was doing to me and to my home. Because you know what happened? Nothing.

We kept all this “stuff” because it was “too good to donate” — but at the same time the work (or the thought of the work) of photographing, listing, selling, shipping, and the entire business of “getting what it was worth” was overwhelming me and stressing me out because I wasn’t good at it, it took a LOT of time, and there was always more I “should” be doing. We live in a rural area and garage sales don’t work well for us.

So… finally one day I thought, “What would happen if I got rid of just ONE THING and didn’t try to sell it, but just let it go and didn’t have to think about it again?”

When my husband saw that thing in a donation box, he said, “You’re really going to DONATE that? It might be worth some money.” I offered to let him try to sell it, but set a deadline of two weeks. He thought about it for a minute, decided it wasn’t something he wanted to do, and then agreed that donating would be okay.

You know what happened? I don’t even remember WHAT that item was! I remember it happening, and the conversation, but whatever the item was and whatever it may have been worth have disappeared from my mind. And it didn’t take that long, either.

What DO I remember? The happiness of a less-cluttered house! Once I got the hang of NOT attaching monetary value to donation items, it became SO MUCH EASIER to let them go as I made the decision to declutter and donate.

The thing is, you’ve already spent the money on that object. Chasing after trying to get something back out of it only makes your life more difficult, and negates the benefit of whatever money you may make on the sale.

That’s not to say I give everything away without any thought whatsoever.

For items I think “really might be worth something,” I’ll do a quick internet check of SOLD items on ebay.

Not long ago, my son decided to get rid of a couple of old video game things. My husband saw them in the donation box and said — you guessed it — “That character is really popular. Those might be worth something.”

So I checked. Yes, I COULD get maybe $15 or so if I sold them both online.

But overall, it was just better to let them go. We spent the money long ago, our children got use out of the items, and it really felt okay in my mind and body.

I’ve donated items MUCH more valuable than $15 and am absolutely fine with it. Eliminating the clutter from your mental, visual, and physical space is much more important than dollars.

Some charities will give you a receipt for tax purposes, but honestly I don’t get them because when I’m in the midst of decluttering, there’s no way I’m going to document every little thing and I would prefer to never think about those items again.

But if you wanted to donate something very valuable, it might be an option to use as a tax deduction. Check with your accountant or tax preparer.

4. I Might Need It Later

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Will you be sorry later if you get rid of it?

I’ll just say this… I am the type of person who used to keep EVERYTHING “just in case.”

And out of all the trunkloads and truckloads of things that have been tossed or donated from this house over the past ten years or so, I have NEVER ONCE been sorry I let any of it go.

Of course I can’t GUARANTEE you’ll never let go of something that later you’ll really wish you had. But I can say it’s quite unlikely. (And also… having made it through 2020 and all of the supply chain issues since then with no regrets over the massive decluttering we did before then… I can say this with a fair amount of confidence.)

Questions to Ask When Decluttering

I know everyone has their own criteria for what to keep or toss, but here are my top 5 questions to ask when decluttering:

  1. Do I love this item enough to dust it regularly? (I HATE dusting, and my house gets dusty VERY quickly.)
  2. Is this item related to a hobby I no longer wish to do? (If it is, then get rid of it! If you take up the hobby again someday, you can get new stuff.)
  3. Does this item need repair? (Chances are if you didn’t fix it right away when it broke, you never will. Toss it.)
  4. If I had to move next week, would I want to pack this? (No? LET IT GO! You won’t miss it.)
  5. Could I borrow/rent/buy a new “whatever” if I ever absolutely needed this thing I’ve had forever and never used? (Usually you can. Detach the monetary value in your mind and let the item go.)
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Conquer that Cluttered House

For today, do one of two things:

1. Declutter one area for either 10 items or 10 minutes. Whatever you decide to let go, physically remove it from your home. Over the next few days, see how you feel without those objects around you. (I’m betting you’ll smile a lot.)


2. Do a FlyLady-style “27 fling boogie” (or whatever number you choose). Grab a trash bag — or even a plastic grocery bag — and go through your house as quickly as possible, tossing items — papers, empty containers, broken items, old food, WHATEVER. Don’t think too hard, just toss.

Do you have to dive in and purge your entire cluttered house at once? No! Read this post about Slow Decluttering. You’ll see, just a little bit every day makes a big difference.


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23 thoughts on “4 Mindset Shifts to Help Clear Your Cluttered House”

  1. Thanks for these practical suggestions. Sometimes we need to declutter the decluttering advice and you have done it. One trick i use it to think of the item in terms of how much of my time it requires; my time is valuable to me so that quickly puts it into perspective.

  2. This was a very helpful article. I loved the question to ask yourself: If you move, would you want to pack it? We moved less than 2 years ago and brought so much unnecessary stuff (including a lot of stuff just to sell on ebay) and I promised myself I will never move that much stuff every again.

    1. Hi Pam! The very real possibility of moving in a couple of years is prompting me to do deeper rounds of decluttering. I can totally see your story happening to me, and I’m determined to have all the extra stuff gone by then! Thank you for sharing your experience!

    1. Hi Christine! It really does get easier over time! 🙂 I thought I would get a little bored after doing this every day for a while, but that hasn’t been the case at all! Thank you for reading and for your comment!

    2. I have moved several times in my life and turned into a horder. I always declutterd before I moved. Then 10 years later I am in need of a fast major purge of things no longer useful to our lives (do not want to move them again and cannot lift them either). Thank you for the motivation without the judgment. I am choseing the 2 bathrooms first. Small rooms, quicker to declutter and clean, and a faster success. That helps keep the motivation going. Win-win. Keep on sending the words of wisdom and encouragement.

  3. Sheila McVicar

    I love your Conquer Clutter posts. I had many garage sales, craft sales and de-clutter sessions as I went. More for the sale, Thrift Store and Christmas items made by me sales. The more I sold, the more I found for the next sale. Then we had “Got Junk?” come in. We shredded 12 extra large garbage bags full and sent to Organic recycle. In the end, we donated our car to charity, sold the house in a poor market in 10 days, moved our keepers (kitchen items and some of the furniture, 6 suitcases with all our clothing, shoes and winter gear) and the motorcycle (1965 Ducati), my exercise bike, and 1/3rd of my original craft supplies to a storage locker and left for Australia within 6 weeks. Losing the clutter became quite addictive!

    1. Deidrea McGlown

      Sounds like what I’m in the middle of doing. Moving from our Orlando house with 3 bedrooms, 2 baths and a she-shed to a 1 bedroom condo with a small loft! I have been battling those 3 piles for months. This really helps motivate me to get truly rid of the “maybe treasures”!! I have 4 weeks to declutter and pack up for the Virgin Islands. I know I can do it!!

  4. I love a good purge! I do it regularly. The problem: My husband’s junk! He won’t let me touch it! He has TONS of it and I’m very OCD, wanting to clear it out! HELP!

    1. Hi Cheryl! I wish I had a solution for your problem! My personal rule is that I never declutter another adult’s stuff, but that’s difficult when it invades your living space. 🙁 Perhaps you could make it clear to your husband that YOU won’t get rid of anything that belongs to him, but ask him what HE would be willing to let go by the end of the week. Doesn’t have to be week, but set a specific timeframe. If he’s truly overwhelmed by a LOT of stuff, he may not be able to easily decide right away. Small, frequent goals could help — even something small like 4-5 things a week, gradually moving to 2 things a day, and increasing from there. I know that’s not the ‘I need help NOW’ solution you’re looking for, but I hope it helps a little.

  5. How do you get rid of something like Coach, Dooney &Burke, Brighton purses that you paid hundreds of dollars for and barely used. They are still in excellent condition. I have tried Facebook marketplace, and Craigslist. I even put them in a yard sale for like $80, and they didn’t even sell.

    1. Hi Katrina! If you’re determined to sell rather than donate, you could try a consignment shop (either a physical store or a local online seller with experience selling those items) or selling to a pawn shop. I think with purses, many people don’t trust the authenticity when they buy online — if you have the original receipt, that would probably help with reselling. If none of those options work out for you, perhaps consider donating to a charity that provides professional clothing and accessories to women re-entering the workforce?

  6. These are very helpful. One reason I have a hard time decluttering clothes is because I start wondering how much money I spent on all these clothes and it feels like a waste of money to give them away or throw them out.

  7. The one question I ask myself, especially with sentimental items like photos, artwork, expensive decor and dishes, things I don’t use or bring me joy is “what will my daughters do with this when I’m gone?” Usually the answer is “they will dump it’”. That’s when I know to get rid of it now. This will save your children from the anger of having to get rid of your junk when you’re gone, at a time they should have loving memories.

  8. Ruth R Trepekuniene

    Thank You. It is possible. I love the ten minutes a day idea. I’m going to start at soon as I’ve written this. I wonder if after ten minutes I’ll be up for even more… There’s hope!

  9. I just bought a box of nice velvet hangers. At the end of two months anything I haven’t washed and worn and hung on one of them is going. Also, we have a “FREE TABLE” here at my office. When I think something’s too good to donate the thought of one of my friends here at work taking things and using them makes me happy!

  10. Great tips! I’ve gotten better at decluttering, especially since our move a few years ago. But I still have a way to go. I’m featuring this at Thursday Favorite Things today. 🙂

  11. Julie, Thank you for all your advice & encouragement!!! I realize my bedroom closet will never be like yours but that’s o.k. because it’s just not me!!! I am disabled so I’m unable to do physical work as much but my best friend helps me once a week!! We take one area say my front coat closet or all my ladies underthings standing chest!! Anyway one major area and finish cleaning out & organizing it!!! If I need anything else to organize it with we’ll pick that up next week!! Working out so well!!! Praise the Lord for such a good friend!!! Natalie K.

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